“That Feeling of Not Fitting In”
If you know whats its like to not fit in because you are seen as different and are often underestimated by a large proportion of the people you meet on a daily basis this post could equip you with a fresh perspective, motivating you to bring about change for yourself and your loved ones. This simple thought experiment aims to inspire change through positive perception. Its only when you can see yourself in a positive light that you will be able to help do the same for your child and the word ‘normal’ will evently hold an entirely different meaning for you.
“My kid has Super Powers; they use to call it Special Needs”
If you are a parent who is coming to terms with the new label assigned to your child after receiving a professional diagnosis you are probably looking far into the future and imagining all the things they will miss out on in life. The diagnosis has provided you with mixed blessings. Giving the condition a name can now help to access the right support and resources but at the same time a fear that the label can act as a self fulfilling prophecy can distort your perception and form unhelpful ways of dealing with things. No diagnostic label can tell you exactly what challenges your child will have. Learning ways to support your child that addresses their needs, rather than focusing on what category of autism they fall into, is the most helpful thing you can do. Embrace your childs quirks and celebrate their unique perspective. Don’t whisper the word ‘autism’ or whatever name is given to their condition. It’s more like ‘AUTISM POWER!’ Your child will be better equipped to face the world with a super power rather than a life long disability so it’s up to you to help them see their condition as a super power. This concept can be applied to most conditions so it takes no time at all to start looking for and seeing your super powers. Whether they are hidden within a condition you are diagnosed with such as ADHD, dyspraxia, autism or just hidden within a part of you yet to be discovered.
If you have ever read a superhero comic book story you will be familiar with this plot. Many superheros grow up totally unaware of their super abilities. What seems to be more apparent is their inability to fit in with the cool kids. They can see that they are different from the other kids their age but they struggle to see that any of the attributes that make them different could be seen as an advantage. Instead they only notice the negative. Its not until they notice something unique that they do can help another. The more of these abilities they notice about themselves the more self belief they gain. If we can apply these threads of thought to ourselves we begin to recognise the power potential in cultivating self belief in ourselves and others. In the superhero stories these abilities manifest as science fiction powers like flying or doing something at superhuman speeds. The super powers I am asking you to open your eyes to require a deeper look. Everyone has an undiscovered super power that is hidden within the deepest recesses of your mind and the adventure you have is to discover that power. The hard part is learning how to activate it and that requires a commitment to keep challenging the way you see things. You may be thinking its unlikely that you have a super power because you would had noticed it already, but the truth is most of us don’t recognise our super powers because we we are to quick to disregard many impressive things about ourselves and the people we love. You have to look around yourself in a totally new way. Not just normal looking but the type of looking that suddenly helps you to see something really familiar in a totally original way.
The sad truth is that the for many years we have been told that our altered perception caused by our disability held us back and learning ways to overcome this by being like everyone else was the only logical cause of action. I spent so much time hiding my poor spelling and grammar from people that I never celebrated all the wonderful creative states of mind dyslexia gave me. In fact these dyslexic attributes eventually become super human powers as we learn to harness them to make our day-to-day lives totally mind-blowing. The same goes for my brother Adrian, finding the things about him that made him unique and happy was a great starting point for developing his self belief and inspiring him to be more adventurous and willing to push himself. We soon discovered that pushing him to try new things wasn’t the best course of action. The best results came from inspiring him to push himself by focusing all our energy on building his self belief.
“I Am Fluent In Autism & You Can learn To Speak It To”
If you have dyslexia or autism or any other condition you wish to see yourself in a more self empowering light you can take the first important step by stop seeing this condition as something thats holds you back and instead see it as a first or second language you are fluent in. This will enable you to stop seeing your condition as the cause of your ongoing struggle to get by in life. Yes its contributed to making learning difficult or challenging for you over the years but that’s simply because all your teachers weren’t fluent in ‘dyslexia’ or ‘autism’ and therefore they were unable to assist you in unlocking your full potential and the full potential of your ‘language’. Just like any language it’s connected to an ever changing culture driven organically by the people that use this language. When we look at our condition in this way we discover how it can generate new unique ways of understanding the world around us enabling us to recognise the powerful potential of our unique way of thinking and seeing.