Future autism

Growing up with a younger brother who has autism wasn’t all that unusual for me. For a long period of time I never imagined how autism would affect Adrian as he got older and I never imagined him as an adult. It wasn’t until my teens that I actually started to think about how different Adrian’s life would be to my own and this got me onto thinking how different it must be for a parent when coming to terms with a diagnosed such as autism. Many parents imagine these entire futures for us when we are born, often way too ambitious and full of expectations. As we grow older our parents slowly come to accept that we are individuals with very different ideas and ambitions your own. When a parent gets a diagnosed for their child, it’s like the whole world they have built for you in their imaginations is suddenly snatched away but I have a message for parents that find themselves in that mindset.

The ultimate thing you want most for your child is for them to find happiness. All the other stuff connected to success and lifestyle are pointless without a reinforced inner happiness. I would like to argue that the people I suspect as being the most happy are often the same others consider to be unfortunate. I look at Adrian and I see that he has a inner happiness many of us have dedicated our lives to finding for ourselves. None of us can be 24/7 happy and living with a condition such as autism can be incredibly challenging, to the point where your positive outlook could be drastically affected.
As I’ve seen Adrian gain new ways of communicating and learn new ways of being understood I have seen his well being improve also. I could see that many of us build a world around ourselves where we can’t communicate and often feel misunderstood. I could see that this was the opposite for Adrian. His world has become a happier place as he has formed many expressive ways of sharing his perception of the world. We could all perhaps learn a lesson from people that don’t have the very thing we take for granted and neglect on a daily basis. It’s not exactly news to us to hear that its the fundamental things in life that make us human are the very things we should nurture and exercise with all the people we care about. Adrian’s future looks bright and If I want to have something as bright as his life I shall be mindful of how much he has to teach me. ~ Mark

 


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